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Mommy Guilt – How to Stop it

Mommy guilt is probably one of the worst feelings for any mother. You want to be there for your children and provide for them. Yet somehow, you always end up feeling as if you are just shy of meeting their expectations.

Many moms everywhere suffer from mommy guilt. Just remember that you are not alone. Here are some ways to combat mommy guilt and stop it today.

Be nice to yourself - This is probably one of the most popular forms of mommy guilt ever. When something happens to your child, a broke limb or a bruised knee, your immediate reaction is to berate yourself as a mother. “I’m a terrible mother,” is how it usually begins. Be kind to yourself, because you are a good mother.

Release the need to control everything - Remind yourself that you are not in control of everything that happens to your child. Even though you are an involved parent and see after your child, there is no way you can prevent some things from happening.

Trust yourself - You are the very best person for this tough job called Mommy. Don’t second-guess yourself. If your child asks your permission and you don’t think he should do what he wants to do, say no. Even though he might get mad at you, you are only looking out for his well-being. When your intuition points you in one direction, follow that internal lead.

Don’t cave in to guilt trips - Kids like to take their parents down guilt trip lane. When you make a decision, stick to your guns. Don’t give in to your child’s grunting, huffing, and pouting. Draw the line, and then enforce those boundaries.

Don’t allow others to influence your parental decisions - It’s typical for other parents to offer unwarranted advice. Some parents seem to thrive on giving away their free parenting advice. More often than not, these parents haven’t even experienced the situation you are dealing with. Family members are sometimes the worst at doling out their advice. If you are faced with this kind of circumstance, clearly state that you are not seeking advice. If you have to, walk away. Don’t let others influence your decisions as a parent.

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